I thought this post was extremely helpful. (See Link at Bottom)
“It isn’t uncommon for a parent who is estranged from his/her children to blame the other parent of PAS. It is easier to blame others for bad behavior than to accept and acknowledge bad behavior.”
I have to be honest. After reading this, I was a bit concerned. Maybe I was doing this? Maybe I was really estranged from my children — through my own fault — and I was blaming my ex-wife for this instead of taking my own responsibility.
I was relieved to see the later information in the post:
A parent who has been alienated from his/her child will continue to pursue a relationship with the child. The parent will attempt to communicate on a regular basis, will send emails and cards. The same parent will use the court system to fight the alienating parent and retain their legal rights to a relationship with their child.
It was good to hear that my actions shouldn’t be construed as anything negative. I just went through another series of negative texts from my daughter this weekend — one completely unprovoked as I hadn’t even texted her. She was upset that she’d heard from her mother that I was at her brother’s soccer game. Apparently, in her view, I’m not allowed to attend any games. I didn’t respond. I will keep coming to games. I will keep texting and emailing, I will fight in the courts for access to my kids. That’s what Dads do.
- If you are estranged from your adult child, this is for you… (thebridgeacross.wordpress.com)
- The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children (psychologytoday.com)
- The Impact of Parental Alienation on Parents (psychologytoday.com)
- Pamela Richardson – A Mothers Heartbreaking Memoir (publiclies.wordpress.com)
- “According to n… (pasmom4.wordpress.com)